Making Self Care Your Superpower

Updated: Feb 9

As a professional indigenous woman, I’m familiar with the hamster wheel of trying to do everything. The pressure placed on women in society to be the voice, be the change, to be the best mom and the best partner, all while having to excel at all our passion projects, is overwhelming on the easiest days. We are here to say, “No more!” I realize that this type of pressure and need for perfection is not sustainable. Without down time and relaxation techniques, when am I supposed to replenish those parts of me that spread too thin? This quest for having it all, doing it all, always comes at a cost.

Many parents have been conditioned to think that they need to have their children enrolled in every program and every sport imaginable, and that it’s necessary to be involved in all aspects of their children's lives; from school boards, coaching teams, providing snacks for 20 plus kids and sitting next to them during homework time. Iʻm not quite sure when this shift occurred. I don’t recall my own parents being so involved, but not once did I feel neglected or ignored.

Somewhere in the past 20 years we have lost the fine art of slowing down. I feel like I’ve forgotten how to take time to enjoy hobbies and passions separate from our family members. When I’m without a second of free time, shuffling kids here and there or volunteering for every school function and team sport, it’s like I wear it like a badge of honor. Culturally, we have sensationalized the overworked, super busy mom who still looks put together. Everyone loves a strong woman that shows no weakness, they call her something like “Girl Boss”. For communities of color, we’re used to overcoming. We expect that there will be obstacles and feel shame when we can’t overcome and make our communities proud. But itʻs time to challenge that narrative and separate ourselves from the hustle and bustle to replenish and fill up our cup.