Healthy Communication

Our level of happiness and satisfaction in life are in direct correlation of how we communicate. Communication is not only a verbal language exchange but is also body language and behaviors as well as transactions we engage in. The way we express ourselves is as unique as our fingerprints and with this uniqueness also comes a lot of confusion and misinterpretations. This is because everyone understands each other through their own life experiences and not through those who are trying to communicate with us. So how do we get on the same page with those we live with and care about? How do we lessen the misunderstandings with loved ones, and even those we work or go to school with? Developing clear communication and understanding of how others communicate will allow us to gain a better understanding of what they are trying to tell us, as well as sending clear messages of how we information.

Growing up we often take on the communication style of those we live with. If our parents are yellers, we often find ourselves raising our voices to get our message across; or if our parents are passive-aggressive in their communication, we learn early on how to manipulate others to get what we want. Likewise if our parents communicate clearly, then we too will communicate our needs and wants clearly as well. We can always change our communication style when we gain new skills and start to set healthy boundaries in our life.

When we enter into romantic relationships, it’s so important to be clear with our feelings and to express what we feel comfortable with. Through healthy communication, we begin to set healthy boundaries that are very important for our health and safety. We let our significant others know what behaviors we are okay with and what will not tolerate. We learn how to ask for respect, trust, and loyalty, and we communicate when our needs are not being met and we need to go our separate ways. Our partner may interpret this communication style as selfish, bossy, or even rude, but we can communicate all these boundaries in clear and loving ways. Their failure to understand and unwillingness to honor our boundaries is a clear indication that they are not the person for you. Boundaries are a set of guidelines and rules that help to contribute to an equal understanding of who you are and how you desire your relationship to function. So how do we know if we have healthy boundaries in our relationships? There are a couple of signs that illustrate clearly whe